Poly Parenting (July 2019)
Poly Parenting
Pros to a poly household:
more people to help around the house, help raise the children, help teach good lessons
more incomes means easier living
more attention to the children
creates a "village" in which to raise children
often allows for relationship romance to end while co-parenting does not have to end
More emotional support for everyone
The more loving, caring adults the better
Teaches that honesty = trust
gives examples of good communication
Blended families are not uncommon nowadays with multiple "aunts" and "uncles" who aren't necessarily related by blood
Cons to a poly household:
Religious dogma
Bigoted family or community members
If you are strictly closeted you can't be open with your children, otherwise you put them in the position of lying to other people (which sucks a lot)
Different parenting styles sometimes clash
breakups can be doubly hard with more people and more opportunities for relationships to end (but this can also have the benefit of showing children an open and honest de-escalation of a relationship instead of a traditional messy break-up)
Being out to your family means you pretty much have to be out to everyone
Custody battles can use polyamory against you
Coming out to kids at different ages: when they are really young they don't know any different, teens are generally self-absorbed and do not care, older kids don't want to know about their parents' romantic or sex lives, and adult children are hopefully mature enough to understand it and accept it.
How/ when/ and why should you come out?
Pregnancy: to stay open or close the relationship while getting pregnant or while pregnant? If in a hierarchical relationship, to have a baby with your primary or with your secondary? What is your plan in the case of an accident?
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